37 Things to Say to Your man/woman

 

A healthy relationship is a safe haven where we can relax and recuperate from the tensions of everyday life. We need to hear positive things from our partner. Just as I gathered together some friends to tell me what not to say to a partner,so they also suggested what they would like to hear from their partner.

"Good job!"
"You are wonderful."
"That was really great."
"You look gorgeous/handsome today."
"I don't feel complete without you."
"I appreciate all the things you've done for me."
"You come first in my life,before friends,career,anything."
"I'm glad to be your girlfriend/boyfriend."
"You're the bestfriend I have."
"I wanted you today."
"I missed you today."
"I couldn't get you out of my mind today."
"It's nice to know that you're mine."
"I will always love you."
"I love to see your eyes sparkle when you smile."
"As always,you look good today."
"I trust you."
"I need you."
"I can always count on you."
"I will support you all the way."
"You make me feel good."
"I'm sorry."
"I was wrong."
"I understand you."
"What would you like?"
"What is on your mind?"
"Let me just listen."
"You are so special."
"I can't imagine life without you."
"I wish I were a better partner."
"What can I do to help?"
"Pray for me."
"I'm praying for you today."
"I prize every moment we spend together."
"Thank you for loving me."
"Thank you for being my partner."
"You make every day brighter."

25 Things Not to Say to Your Man/Woman

There is nothing more painful than having unhealthy communication with the one you love. It is through communication that we connect and our spirits touch. If that connection becomes contaminated, it is only a matter of time before the whole relationship is poisoned. In the process of communication, wisdom is knowing what not to say rather than what to say....

Here is the list:

"I told you so."
"You're just like your mother/father."
"You're always in a bad mood."
"You just don't think."
"It's your fault."
"What's wrong with you?"
"All you ever do is complain."
"I can't do anything to please you."
"you get what you deserve."
"Why don't you ever listen to me?"
"Can't you be more responsible?"
"What were you thinking?"
"You're impossible!"
"I don't know why i put up with you."
"I can do whatever I like."
"If you dont like it,can you just live."
"Can't you do anything right?"
"That was stupid."
"All you ever do is think of yourself."
"If you really love me,you'd do this."
"You're such a baby."
"Turnabout's fair play."
"What's your problem?"
"I can never understand you."
"Do you always have to be right?."

The sun will eventually shine and reality will set in

 Nobody wants to admit to this, but bad things will keep on happening. Maybe that's because it's all a chain, and a long time ago someone did the first bad thing, and that led someone else to do another bad thing, and so on. You know, like that game where you whisper a sentence into someone's ear, and a person whispers it to someone else, and it all seems wrong in the end.  But then again, maybe bad things happen because it's the only thing we can keep remembering what good is supposed to look like.

Why are we all so desperate to find love?

  

When I look around me, all I see is love. And where I don’t see love, I see those who are desperately searching for love. Everyone wants to find that one person who makes them feel whole, their other half. Many have said that the world would be meaningless without the love of another, but I can’t help but wonder: do we really need love?

I mean sure, love is great, and it comes in many, many forms. When I was young, I loved my family and friends, and as I grew older, I found that love can extend beyond that. I have loved and been in love many times throughout my young life, and while it may be an amazing and wonderful feeling that almost nothing else in this material world could ever measure up to, I have only learned one real lesson from it: I’ve learned that love hurts.

No matter how much you love someone, it will eventually come to an end - whether the end comes from death or a break-up, love always ends in pain.

I’ve heard many times that it is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all. But how is that any better? If you’ve never loved at all, then you’ve never felt the pain of losing – which, in my opinion, is a feeling that is only comparable to slicing your chest open, ripping out your heart and handing it over to someone else, only to watch them stomp on it until it’s a mushy mess. So why are we all so crazy about love when we all know, deep down, that we’re just going to end up getting hurt?

Love is not life, but life is about love. Not necessarily finding that one person to love, but loving yourself and your surroundings. You cannot possibly care about anyone else if you don’t care about yourself first. I guess that’s why I find it hard to understand why everyone’s so desperate to find someone else to love them. Is it because they just can’t love themselves and therefore they feel they must find their “soul mate” to give their lives meaning? It’s just all so confusing to me. So many people pretend to be something they’re not and would never want to be just to attract that special someone that makes them feel like they can be themselves. Maybe I’m crazy, but that just doesn’t seem right. I can honestly say that I would rather spend one hundred years searching for myself and doing what makes me happy than spend a single day having to wonder whether or not someone really cares about me, only to have to spend a thousand more worrying about if their love is true or if they’re cheating on me and when I’ll end up hurt and alone again.

 

People are so concerned about being loved by that one special person that they’re blind to the fact that they’re loved by so many others. No, it may not be that head over heels, weak in the knees kind of love, but it is love nonetheless. The people around you, the ones that have always been there and always will… that’s love in its purest form. So why is it so hard to appreciate and just be happy with the love you have?