Lunes, Mayo 9, 2011

37 Things to Say to Your man/woman

 

A healthy relationship is a safe haven where we can relax and recuperate from the tensions of everyday life. We need to hear positive things from our partner. Just as I gathered together some friends to tell me what not to say to a partner,so they also suggested what they would like to hear from their partner.

"Good job!"
"You are wonderful."
"That was really great."
"You look gorgeous/handsome today."
"I don't feel complete without you."
"I appreciate all the things you've done for me."
"You come first in my life,before friends,career,anything."
"I'm glad to be your girlfriend/boyfriend."
"You're the bestfriend I have."
"I wanted you today."
"I missed you today."
"I couldn't get you out of my mind today."
"It's nice to know that you're mine."
"I will always love you."
"I love to see your eyes sparkle when you smile."
"As always,you look good today."
"I trust you."
"I need you."
"I can always count on you."
"I will support you all the way."
"You make me feel good."
"I'm sorry."
"I was wrong."
"I understand you."
"What would you like?"
"What is on your mind?"
"Let me just listen."
"You are so special."
"I can't imagine life without you."
"I wish I were a better partner."
"What can I do to help?"
"Pray for me."
"I'm praying for you today."
"I prize every moment we spend together."
"Thank you for loving me."
"Thank you for being my partner."
"You make every day brighter."

25 Things Not to Say to Your Man/Woman



There is nothing more painful than having unhealthy communication with the one you love. It is through communication that we connect and our spirits touch. If that connection becomes contaminated, it is only a matter of time before the whole relationship is poisoned. In the process of communication, wisdom is knowing what not to say rather than what to say....

Here is the list:

"I told you so."
"You're just like your mother/father."
"You're always in a bad mood."
"You just don't think."
"It's your fault."
"What's wrong with you?"
"All you ever do is complain."
"I can't do anything to please you."
"you get what you deserve."
"Why don't you ever listen to me?"
"Can't you be more responsible?"
"What were you thinking?"
"You're impossible!"
"I don't know why i put up with you."
"I can do whatever I like."
"If you dont like it,can you just live."
"Can't you do anything right?"
"That was stupid."
"All you ever do is think of yourself."
"If you really love me,you'd do this."
"You're such a baby."
"Turnabout's fair play."
"What's your problem?"
"I can never understand you."
"Do you always have to be right?."

The sun will eventually shine and reality will set in


 Nobody wants to admit to this, but bad things will keep on happening. Maybe that's because it's all a chain, and a long time ago someone did the first bad thing, and that led someone else to do another bad thing, and so on. You know, like that game where you whisper a sentence into someone's ear, and a person whispers it to someone else, and it all seems wrong in the end.  But then again, maybe bad things happen because it's the only thing we can keep remembering what good is supposed to look like.

Why are we all so desperate to find love?

  


When I look around me, all I see is love. And where I don’t see love, I see those who are desperately searching for love. Everyone wants to find that one person who makes them feel whole, their other half. Many have said that the world would be meaningless without the love of another, but I can’t help but wonder: do we really need love?

I mean sure, love is great, and it comes in many, many forms. When I was young, I loved my family and friends, and as I grew older, I found that love can extend beyond that. I have loved and been in love many times throughout my young life, and while it may be an amazing and wonderful feeling that almost nothing else in this material world could ever measure up to, I have only learned one real lesson from it: I’ve learned that love hurts.

No matter how much you love someone, it will eventually come to an end - whether the end comes from death or a break-up, love always ends in pain.


I’ve heard many times that it is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all. But how is that any better? If you’ve never loved at all, then you’ve never felt the pain of losing – which, in my opinion, is a feeling that is only comparable to slicing your chest open, ripping out your heart and handing it over to someone else, only to watch them stomp on it until it’s a mushy mess. So why are we all so crazy about love when we all know, deep down, that we’re just going to end up getting hurt?



Love is not life, but life is about love. Not necessarily finding that one person to love, but loving yourself and your surroundings. You cannot possibly care about anyone else if you don’t care about yourself first. I guess that’s why I find it hard to understand why everyone’s so desperate to find someone else to love them. Is it because they just can’t love themselves and therefore they feel they must find their “soul mate” to give their lives meaning? It’s just all so confusing to me. So many people pretend to be something they’re not and would never want to be just to attract that special someone that makes them feel like they can be themselves. Maybe I’m crazy, but that just doesn’t seem right. I can honestly say that I would rather spend one hundred years searching for myself and doing what makes me happy than spend a single day having to wonder whether or not someone really cares about me, only to have to spend a thousand more worrying about if their love is true or if they’re cheating on me and when I’ll end up hurt and alone again.

 

People are so concerned about being loved by that one special person that they’re blind to the fact that they’re loved by so many others. No, it may not be that head over heels, weak in the knees kind of love, but it is love nonetheless. The people around you, the ones that have always been there and always will… that’s love in its purest form. So why is it so hard to appreciate and just be happy with the love you have?




Biyernes, Abril 15, 2011

HITTING THE REWIND BUTTON

I can't believe that my highschool life is finally over. No matter how many times I wish that I could turn back time it will never happen. However, I'm beyond happy because highschool may be over but the friends I had whom I had lots of happy memories from during highschool as well as my elementary years are the same friends I hang-out today and which I call my bestfriends.
Highschool is incomplete if you don't have FRIENDS. Friends that you go with everyday,eat with during breaks,partners during class activities or groupmates and the one who is 99% present in your highschool life. 

Let me introduce to you my bestfriends or shall I say sisters.

Inna Lamata
We've been friends since grade 5 and still counting. We shared a lot of memories which I will surely treasure in my heart. She's a very talented person and smart as well. When it comes to love life, we almost had thesame experience. It has always been us. We don't go to parties without each other. Whenever I have enemies,it will automatically be her enemies too. She is more like a sister to me because not only with her I am close but also to her other siblings. 
She's now in Austrailia taking up college. One of the difficulties I had to face is to continue my life without her physically but good thing there's facebook,we get to communicate and also text each other. That's good enough for me. 
 Chermaine Guancia
My closest friend during my elementary years. We fought at times but when we reached highschool we laughed at the things we fought about . We used to be in the same group way back but when we reached highschool everything was different because we were no longer classmates. However, things did not change between the 2 of us. Eventhough, we don't get to hang-out often, whenever we talk, it seems like nothing changed. We still trust each other and love each others company. My group and I are close to her as well because she's that kind of friend who is on the go and she's super nice. She studies in Manila now, everytime she will arrive in Bacolod we see to it that we always go out. 
 Shien Abdallah
The first time I saw her, I thought she was unfriendly but as I get to know her,she's the opposite. She is a transferee during our second year. We became close when we were in 3rd year highschool. On a Saturday, We decided to watch the drag race at the old airport.  In the middle of the drag race we decided to go to the "peryahan" since the drag race was getting boring. We rode a jeepney on our way to SM where the peryahan was located. We visited the sidewalk vendors first and bought a pair of matching glasses then went straight to the peryahan right after. We rode the octopus and enjoyed each others company. That's the start of our friendship. She also became closer to my friends and we love how happy-go-lucky she was so she was welcomed in our group. She used to study in Ilo-ilo and then went back to Bacolod. Now that most of our friends are out of the country, most of the time we are together and still managed to have fun memories.
 Je-an Lim
My service mate slash summer buddy slash bestfriend . I witnessed how she ruled our class when I was in grade 2. She stands up for what she think is right and will never back down. I used to be a freelancer so I used to hang-out with her and her friends too. We became close because of Inna. As we reached highschool we became closer and eventually became one of the group.  We shared each others secret. We were amazed on how we are alike in choosing clothes to crushes. She has this humor and this is what she's known for. She never fails to make me laugh. I'll never forget our rob moments. We just go to rob without enough cash and just roam around and talk. Simply by having her around made my day.  As of now, she studies in Lasalle and we seldomly hang-out because of school stuffs. I love you and I miss you already! 
Aya Jalandoni
The face that launched a thousand ships. She's not only beautiful outside but on the inside as well. I remember way back our so called "amazing race" in Talisay,sleepover in your house with the group, magic sing days,drunken nights and a whole lot more. It sucks that you had to move to Aussie. We don't get to talk as much as we do when you were here. I am happy for you and Martin because I've witnessed your love story when we were in Boracay and I can see that you're relationship is just getting stronger and stronger each day. Wish you all the luck in your love life! You also have the coolest sisters and I miss them too. I salute to Tito Nicholas and Tita Susan because all of their daughters are gorgeous,"mga balantayan guid". Also, thank you for being my friend up to now. I am sorry for all of my mistakes. I promised you something and I will surely keep that. Your arrival is always one of most the awaited events here and I can't wait to see you again!

Sheryl Gamboa
The first time I saw you, with your looks, I gave you a bad impression. By the time I started talking to you and got to know you, you were the complete opposite of what I thought you were. I remember how some of our batchmates misjudged you. I had to defend you because I know you didn't do anything to them and you deserve to be respected. After that incident, our friendship started. We had to borrow you from your previous group because they knew you first but in the end you chose us. Thank you so much for that! Funny how people always mistaken us as twins and we confused a lot of people. We'll always be pinggan and siopao!


Katrina & Margaret Rubin
It's always incomplete if one of them is missing. They never fail to put a smile on our face because they always make everything interesting and fun. We've been friends since we were in our elementary years but when we reached highschool we distanced from each other for some reasons. I've said this to you already but I will say it again, I am truly sorry. I may not be a perfect friend but I tell you this, It will never happen again. I've learned a lot of things as I got older and had become mature. I am now a changed person. You don't know how happy I was when we were already friends. "As in nagmag-an guid dayun pamatyag ko" after our reconciliation. Thank you so much for accepting me again. Let's make new memories and cherish the old ones!

 Gianne Gacho
My friend with a capsule like head. I call her Yan/capsule. We were already close when we were in second year highschool but we were in different groups. As we reached 4th year, she joined our group. It started on halloween, she joined us because of Shien and we loved her company. We always go home together and talk in the jeep. We never ran out of topic whenever we talk. She is like a sister to me because she is so small like me. I miss her laughter and everything about her. She is now in Malaysia and we rarely communicate with each other because she is RARELY online. :/ I miss our foodtrip days. Bascon already misses you too! I really can't wait to see you again! 

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A best friend is the fairy tale. They’ve been there since once upon a time and will stay there until forever after ♥
 
TO BE CONTINUED....